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Closeness vs. Distance by Tim Connor You can be a million miles apart emotionally while in the same bed, and as close as the next heartbeat even though you are separated by miles or time. Have you ever had the experience of feeling really sep- arated or far apart from your partner even though you were within touching distance? Have you ever felt really close to someone you see infrequently? How can you explain this paradox? I have had both experiences in my life on more than one occasion, and I have tried to determine the root of this closeness and distance. I don't have a definitive answer, but I think I am getting closer to the core of the issue. There are several types of closeness or distance - physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, and psychological. I have felt really close emotionally to someone, yet a million miles apart physically. I have felt a great valley of distance between someone spiritually, yet a closeness in other areas. If you are in a relationship and do not feel close to your significant other or partner in any of the above ways, I suggest you consider the value of this relationship on your path through the rest of your life. The real problem here is to be close in some ways and distant in others. For example, if you have a greater need for more affection, emotional closeness, or romance and your significant other has a greater need for better financial security, you will never bridge this gap focusing on a totally unrelated common area in your relationship. You will tend to bring the unresolved resentments, baggage, expectations, guilt, etc. into the other areas of your relationship. You may not do this consciously, but you will certainly do it unconsciously. I am just asking you to spend some time considering where you are close and far apart in a current relationship, and its impact on the relationship as a whole. If you are in another relationship (family, friend, coworker, employee, supervisor, customer, etc.) and do not feel close in some - or even any - way, I suggest you consider the value of this relationship also on your path through the rest of your life and how it may need to change or improve; and if this is not possible, then the ability to walk away from it. In His service, Tim To receive Tim’s weekly FREE motivational booster articles, contact him at www.timconnor.com with “please add me to your free booster e-mail subscriber list” in the subject line. Or contact him via e-mail to michele@worldwidedrillingresource.com WorldWide Drilling Resource ® 7 FEBRUARY 2018